tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post146309404727776188..comments2023-08-26T11:45:53.143-03:00Comments on Rachel's Rantings in Rio de Janeiro: Crushes, Divorce, and RegretRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13209527132116902328noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-2642507244596440682011-08-24T01:11:55.121-03:002011-08-24T01:11:55.121-03:00I manage this by only having crushes on totally un...I manage this by only having crushes on totally unobtainable men, like Jamie Oliver.Kellyhttp://mylifeinperu.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-250414223161253352011-08-23T17:14:43.094-03:002011-08-23T17:14:43.094-03:00Just for the record! I was reading this post when ...Just for the record! I was reading this post when the Earthquake hit the Northeast this afternoon... :(American Heart Brazilian Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049937328816904295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-12303733571983784772011-08-23T17:13:57.133-03:002011-08-23T17:13:57.133-03:00I have to say I am totally with Jim.
Managing your...I have to say I am totally with Jim.<br />Managing your expectations and having full trust is key.<br /><br />RayAmerican Heart Brazilian Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049937328816904295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-40748531129728349212011-08-23T14:55:50.615-03:002011-08-23T14:55:50.615-03:00Great post. I think marriage is above all a contra...Great post. I think marriage is above all a contract and hence to work guidelines must be obeyed.<br /><br />http://www.kanitz.com/veja/contrato.asp<br /><br />As for top non discreet men I would point to Italians: those guys lool like their actually going to assault the woman they are checking out and that if a parking meter was attractive enough they would have a go. It's kind of funny to The Gritty Poethttp://www.grittypoet.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-60323579492012147202011-08-23T14:28:58.975-03:002011-08-23T14:28:58.975-03:00Jim, you beat me to the Dan Savage reference. I...Jim, you beat me to the Dan Savage reference. I'm a huge fan of his, and he nails it. GGG, right? Good, Giving, and Game for those non-fans.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-24376802179067303062011-08-23T14:23:47.800-03:002011-08-23T14:23:47.800-03:00Kay, loved all of your analogies! Flirting and in...Kay, loved all of your analogies! Flirting and innocent crushes can be fun and harmless sure. BUT, if there's a mutual sexual attraction, that's where it gets dangerous and I wouldn't put myself in a situation alone with that person and no way have drinks together alone, it's too easy to get caught up in that feeling, you're playing with fire. And once the line is crossed, Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16157534345604450915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-83712717828590297402011-08-23T12:42:37.048-03:002011-08-23T12:42:37.048-03:00I'm with Dan Savage (of the Savage Love column...I'm with Dan Savage (of the Savage Love column and podcast) - monogomy is a myth. OK, perhaps it works for a few, but in real life we humans are not monogomous by nature and as such we should have serious discussions with our life partners about flirting, hooking up and sharing. Define the boundaries and the rules - then stick to them.<br /><br />Trust is more important than monogomy.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14003236423048071844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-34946196678522851402011-08-23T11:07:59.271-03:002011-08-23T11:07:59.271-03:00I am fine with Mr. Rant innocently flirting, which...I am fine with Mr. Rant innocently flirting, which he does... I believe regularly and with all women. He's a charming man. I used to get really jealous over the fact. Now I only get slightly jealous, you know the healthy kind that reminds me that I still want my husband ;)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13209527132116902328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-4881531692771492952011-08-23T10:25:44.966-03:002011-08-23T10:25:44.966-03:00I think the difficulty is where and whent the boun...I think the difficulty is where and whent the boundaries are as to how you act towards that crush. Aside from the obvious no hooking up part. But how far do you let the flirting go? Would you feel comfortable if Mr.Rant openly flirted with his crush or should it just remain in his head and not acted on at all? <br /><br />On one side I'm like you, so I can understand perfectly how normal it Shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04963813934732477984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8437750058361105497.post-34341473389732430162011-08-23T08:24:29.652-03:002011-08-23T08:24:29.652-03:00"Just because your married doesn't mean y..."Just because your married doesn't mean you're dead", quote from every married male that gets caught ogling. Women are more discreet and drool into a tissue. The grass always looks lusher and greener on the other side of the fence...and frequently when you open the gate and dart in to get a closer look you step in a pile of crap, notice the weeds and see the dead spots...then Kayhttp://knowitallnanna.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com