I get really irritated with the whole cesarean/natural birth argument. And you know why, because I had to have a cesarean. I know what you guys are going to say, no, no, you didn't. And that's what pisses me off!
About 90% of the hardcore anti-cesarean peeps out there will automatically consider my c-section unnecessary. My medical history doesn't matter and I even had one person ask me if I saw my uterus to confirm it. Um, yeah, I did not ask my doctor to lift up and show me my uterus. I felt that would be slightly invasive for the both of us.
And I will admit that Brazil, where my children were born, has one of those super duper high C-section rates. You know, one of those countries where the docs normally schedule in the birth between their morning appointments and afternoon lunch date. Quick and easy.
But again, what pisses me off is that I gave birth at a hospital where they don't do c-section unless they really have to. It's a "natural," aka. thrifty, Brazilian public hospital. I wasn't even allowed to bring a pacie into my freaking room. Not even nipple soother. You went in, you gave birth in the factory line of birthing beds, and you breastfed. That was it.
Well, per my style, my uterus rebelled. It followed the beat of it's own little drummer right into the OR.
And you know what, I shouldn't have to feel bad about it. I gave birth to a baby and it's not any less of a birth! Actually, while you were up and around a day after your excruciating 24 hrs of labor, I was stuck in bed for weeks! I got an infection, and I had a horrible time all around. So you want to compare pain, I think I have some room to bicker with you.
And no, my birthing experience wasn't magical in that it was choreographed with Sade music and I chanted to the beat of bongo drums. It was magical because I gave birth to my son! So stop the Mom on Mom hate. It's fine to support your cause, and I too support avoiding unnecessary cesareans. But just because you had one doesn't mean you didn't need it. I don't get an automatic too posh to push sticker put on my chest.
So lay off, and please don't forget, that as much as the c-section is overused these days, it was created for a reason. Mothers used to die during childbirth. Babies used to die. And, shocking, sometimes both Mommy and Baby died.
I mean, seriously, you are all turning Gisele Bundchen on our asses and it is not pretty.
Yes, we need to get back to nature, but there are some cases in which nature would have sacrificed one or both of the people involved in the pregnancy. In those cases, c-sections need to be performed. And the Mother shouldn't be made to feel less of a woman because of it. Trust me, she feels that way already.