Friday, November 19, 2010
Oh yes, the late teens/early 20s were good years in this group. Per most young Carioca adults, they used to travel together to different places during holiday weekends. The group ranged from 10 to 20 to 30 (big trips) people. And yes, they all slept with each other. No, not an orgy... or at least I've yet to hear that story.
They were all friends, they all partied together, and if the mood struck people would pair off. So this is where it gets interesting. I know of at least 3 women that both my brother-in-law and husband have slept with... oh and another friend of theirs. And that is basically how it is for the entire group, men and women alike.
So I asked my group class about it today. Had a bit of an awkward moment when I just blurted out "Do you all hook up with each other?" We had been talking about a trip a group of 8 friends are taking this weekend. Of course, my question wasn't very clear and they asked "The three of us?"
I'm not that blunt! But it would be an interesting story, 2 girls and a guy, to say the least. I clarified, no the group?
Shocker, "Yes. It happens. We're all friends."
Is this common place here in Rio? YES! They said yes! Well thank goodness. I was starting to think that my husband and our friends were just a bunch of horny bastards. Ok, I still think that but at least everyone is.
So where is the drama? When Susy sleeps with Pedro casually and then Pedro ends up dating Susy's best friend Isabel, doesn't it get awkward? I mean, when the girls get together to talk shop over drinks and Isabel talks about Pedro's obsession with anal, to which Susy confirms, isn't that weird?
Maybe I'm just a prude. Maybe I'm just a drama queen. Maybe it's both. The class did confirm that there can be hidden drama. Hidden being the key word. No one talks about it, it just floats around like a beer drinking elephant at all the parties.
At the same time, this seems like a great way of having the sex you want without the risk, assuming people are careful and take the obvious tests. I may know Pedro well but I would still want him to go get that junk swabbed at the doctors before I would put it anywhere.
And what if Susy really liked Pedro but was just playing it cool? No no, I just want the sex too kind of game, which never works by the way. Well, I can't really say but I can't see the logic behind it.
What about you guys? Could you hang in this kind of group? Would you be the drama queen? What about the Cariocas and Brazilians out there. Have you slept with a large majority of your friends?