Thursday, May 20, 2010
Stay at home Mom vs Go to work Dad
It all started with one comment made by my husband. I do believe he realized it too, right after he said it.
It wasn't his fault really. We had a rough start to a busy day. For starters, we have a 1 yr old with diarrhea. That means that I was up most of the night with him and my husband got up early with him so that I could get some sleep. Mom up at night + Dad up super early = two exhausted adults.
I was kind of complaining about everything I have to do and how exhausted I am today. Daniel, being the helpful and caring husband he is, told me not to worry. He knows I'll figure everything out and get plenty of time to sit on the couch.
Seems innocent enough, doesn't it. Not at that moment. At that moment he was saying that all I do is sit on my ass. Funniest part is that he totally got that right after he finished saying couch. But the damage was done.
We went back and forth and he declared the fight open with the oh so famous words "And you don't think my job is hard?!"
Gloves were on and we were in our corners. The contest had started. Who has it worse?
Sitting here in my unbiased thinking chair, neither one of us. The grass is always greener. I do think I have a bit more manual labor going on at my job, which I so classily pointed out by saying he's not a miner or anything. He sits at a desk! I'd kill to sit at a desk all day some days!
He does have a lot more pressure at his job. If I slack and feed the kids chips for dinner, no one is going to say anything to me. Not that I'd tell anyone! He has deadlines, meetings, politically correct conversations, dress shoes, and a boss. Hmmmmm
Point being. This is a winless argument where everyone just ends up going on with their day feeling like crap. It's hard for him because he's at work all day and doesn't really get to relax when he first gets home. It's hard for me because I don't leave the house without children and can't relax until late evening.
Eh, it is was it is. I'd hate to have to spend the entire day away from my kids. I know Daniel hates that too... Damn it. There's a slight chance that I could be wrong here. Let's just keep this our little secret.